From Breakage to Bond-age
I don’t know if most have it, but I would hope that they do. What you ask? The bonding in parent-child(ren) relationships that comes from being together pretty much all the time. You might think that’s a bit much; like, “How can you stand to be with your children all day? No break? Be a mom and a teacher?” I never said I don’t feel like my sanity, parenting, or teaching is challenged – but I would not give it up for anything because of the bonding; relationship building.
I’ve climbed the corporate ladder. I’ve made the money. I’ve travelled and experienced tiny bits of the “world” because of my job. By NO means am I putting those who work long hours or choose public or private schools; I respect it. I know homeschooling is not for everyone. But homeschooling was for us and it was a very personal and confident decision.
My husband and I have been married to each other twice (I’ll save that story for another blog post). Our oldest was 2 when we separated, 4 when we divorced. Through our many, I repeat, MANY mistakes we chose ourselves, career and wrong relationships over the only relationship we had the strongest influence over; our daughter. Needless to say, God intervened BIG time! The faithful prayers of a little girl wanting the restoration of her parent’s marriage, a restoration of her heart – we remarried with Him in the lead.
With new found revelation and eagerness, I wasn’t looking to be followed or sought after because of the titles and positions I once had, I sincerely was proud to be known as princess’ mom. I went to school with her, volunteered in her class, spent quality time – because I finally recognized that children are a gift from the Lord (Psalm 127:3). She was our heritage. Our gift. Our reward.
After several influential talks with a friend, I knew there was a tug at my heart to homeschool. After the decision to homeschool was made, the road to bonding began and so followed the healing for us all.
Now, I wasn’t supposed to have any more children after princess, BUT God…(LOVE that these 2 little words have SO much POWER!). But God blessed us with 4 more! Four very different in learning styles, personalities and ages. (I’ll save that for another blog post).
So, it hasn’t always been easy, the hours are a bit long at times, there are challenging days, and it’s a sure daily effort, BUT I wouldn’t trade the bonding that was born out of breakage for anything in the world! I love bonding with the pops in my life on a daily basis; princess pops, tenacious pops, spunky pops, joyFULL pops, and tender-n-totally pops. In total, 5. Three princesses and two princes.
Homeschooling affords us the time to connect, to bond, to really know one another. It’s hard to hide who you are when you’re with someone on a daily, hourly basis. BUT the growth and acceptance of each other’s differences is what makes us truly bond and enjoy one another. And for that, I am grateful.
Your friend & sister,